You have taught many people and given strength to feeble hands. When someone stumbled, weak and tired, your words encouraged him to stand. Now it's your turn to be in trouble, and you are too stunned to face it. (Job 4:3-5)The real problem with this kind of rationalization is that it purports that pain is something that you can think your way out of. It seems to embrace the idea that all you need to have is a positive mental attitude. Consider the idea that Job and his wife lost 10 children in an instant. How do you positively think your way out of that? It is impossible!
I believe that this kind of thinking keeps a hurting person in denial of their plight. It hinders them from processing their pain and getting through it.. it is hurtful and not helpful. Pain is something that must be processed with the heart. The following saying is reflective of what I am trying to say:
“A friend is one to whom you can pour out the contents of your heart, chaff and grain alike. Knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”Pouring our heart out to a true listening friend is a good way to process pain. Often my conversations with God resemble this kind of pouring out of my heart. When we come to God with our pain we are responding to Jesus when He said:
"Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)It is so encouraging that Jesus acknowledged our pain in this way and casted an invitation to involve Him in our pain. It reminds me of this passage:
Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin. Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. (Hebrews 4:14-16)I close by encouraging you to find a friend today if you are hurting.. someone who will listen to you.. someone who will help you take your pain to Jesus.. someone who will help you find that place of rest in Christ.